By: Vanessa Cardenas
If you grew up in the late 60’s or 70’s, that warm smiling face on your television set, who offered this daily greeting after he changed into his trusty cardigan and sneakers, has recently cropped up in lessons to share today.
Mister Roger’s Neighborhood debut was over 50 years ago and ran for 33 years on public television. It is a legacy that continues to grow and resonate with people of all ages. Think of 1968, and consider the strange similarities to the times now…political and racial tensions were at an all-time high. Riots and protests were happening all across America. Family and friends were at odds over everything from the Vietnam War to music choices. Then, as now, Mr. Rogers came into our homes, modeled the best in all of us and reminded everyone of the good and positive in life. The guiding principle of his daily lessons was simply, always be kind…”a good neighbor”.
When I come into the office to start the day, take off my coat and put on a sweater (as there is still a chill in the air), the theme song stills plays in my head,
“So let’s make the most of this beautiful day,
Since we’re together, we might as well say,
Would you be mine?
Could you be mine?
Won’t you be my neighbor?”
Three key life lessons Mr. Rogers shared (quoted below) seem even more important as an adult:
- Like yourself
“One of the greatest gifts you can give anyone is the gift of your honest self”
2. Control what you can – you
“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers”.
3. Get your point across with respect
“Love and trust, in the space between what’s said and what’s heard in life, can make all the difference in the world”.
Mr. Rogers helped children find the desire within themselves to be better.
As adults in the healthcare industry, we can as well. For example, if a doctor warns someone with a heart problem to stop smoking and exercise more to increase his odds of living longer, the patient may feel offended and often won’t take the advice. But if the doctor says, “if you stop smoking and exercise more, you’ll be able to play with your grandchildren longer without becoming short of breath and needing to rest,” the patient will be more likely to want to change his unhealthily behavior. The doctor simply phrasing the request like this appeals to the patient’s love of his grandchildren and comes off less judgmental and more supportive.
Whenever it comes to a sticky or polarizing issue, if you challenge someone aggressively, that person is going to feel even more strongly about his own opinion, even if it is wrong, because emotions override facts.
Get to a better place together by discussing differences of opinion in a respectful way.
Won’t you please,
Won’t you please,
Please won’t you be my neighbor?